I have never used Tinder or any dating apps, but if I did, this is probably how it feels like to get rejected. I used the Facebook Mentorship feature and messaged five people registered as ‘mentors’, and it didn’t go so well.
Okay, here is the context. I found out Facebook has added the feature of ‘Mentorship’ for the Facebook app about a month back. I love the concept of mentorship and I’m always looking to learn from people. If you don’t know how it works, a bunch of people have registered to offer mentorship to people on Facebook. You look for mentors compatible with you either personally or professionally and leave them a message. This got me curious and I decided to scan the list of mentors and message a few people. I messaged five people in total.
Here’s what my message looked like:
“Hi, I am Pratiksha. I see that you are registered as a mentor and I found your professional background and experiences quite insightful for me. Would love to have a conversation with you, and learn from you! Will you be willing to be my mentor?”
As someone who doesn’t like texting people, this not only took a lot of courage, but also filled me with anxiety. And let me tell you, it was not worth it at all!
Here’s my experience!
Two people I messaged were men, and three were women. These people were either practising psychologists or writers. It took me almost two hours to search for people who might be eligible for mentorship and someone I would benefit off of.
These were my expectations:
- Meeting experienced and friendly people who are open to sharing their experience. (Since most of their bio description said so)
- Learning something from professionals from the similar field as mine.
- If they were busy and/or didn’t want to offer mentorship, I was expecting to be politely declined.
Here’s what actually happened:
- I got blocked by two people.
- One person actually replied with ‘No’.
- One person replied with ‘Don’t message here again.’
- The last one just ignored. (I guess this was the best response amongst the lot!)
This reminded me of my high school crush telling me I am not beautiful enough for him after he found out I liked him. But… it’s okay. We are over it now.
I have a few questions..
- Why would you register as a mentor if you’re not willing to give a positive reply?
- Will these mentors be negatively marked/judged or something? Can I leave a review. Well, I couldn’t. Mark, can you add the feature?
- Do I come across like a creep? I am genuinely concerned.
But, this wasn’t completely useless. I do have a few takeaways from this.
I think people were unwilling to reply because of the numerous spam and abusive messages everyone gets. Even though the messenger did add the ‘mentorship’ icon to the chat, it’s really difficult to trust people. So, everyone who blocked, ignored or was rude to me, I feel you. I completely understand. Don’t feel bad!
Most importantly, I did have a good laugh by all the reactions I got.
Therefore, this wasn’t completely a useless experience. Will I try the feature again? A hard no. Did I enjoy the process? Well yes!